OVERANALYSE – Who Me?  Lets think about that!

All of my friends say I over analyze things – that I put way too much thought into everything I do. What could possibly be wrong with contemplating things in depth. How could searching for all possible outcomes, weighing up the pros and cons, being prepared be a bad thing?

Healthy or Unhealthy –  you choose

Well – when you drill into it – yes I have examined this to… there appear to be a number of reasons why scrutinizing situations, circumstances and events could not be healthy.  Some realisations are not pleasant – yet what you do with this information, that is how you react and what choices you make around it make it a healthy thing to do.

For a long time I couldn’t understand why my friends thought that I dissected everything to the inth degree. I know I analyse, reanalyze and over analyse everything that is or isnt said or done. Until the secret santa scare I didn’t see that the way I did things was so unusual.

SECRET SANTA SCARE

One night just before Christmas (sounds like a fairy tale ) nothing was stirring, not even a mouse. Actually my friends and I were out at a Christmas dinner and about to do Secret Santa. You know the game where everyone brings along a gift to a certain value and we all get to choose.
I started talking about (actually detailing the process would describe it better) which present to select. –
I went through the pros and cons of every present on show. I was able to offer possible predictions for all the gifts on display. – You know if you go for the one in the fancy wrapping – it could be a disguise for a cheapie present, the biggest parcel isn’t always the nicest article, but then if you take the small parcel – it’s probably just that small and nasty – but I’ve been caught before – I didn’t take the small parcel and the person who selected it got the nicest most expensive looking necklace. So you know you have to think this through – don’t you – we all want to get something we like, – then it hit me –everyone was just sitting there smiling and they said – who analyses secret santa? – Its supposed to be fun – so I guess it’s true I do over analyse things.

THE EFFECT OF ANALYSIS

I also realized that while I am spending my time analyzing things – Im missing out on life. As I sat and contemplated what gift to choose – everyone else was actually making their selections – by the time I decided what was going to be the best option – someone else had selected it!!

(ps – If you’d like an analysis of Secret Santa – just email me… -as you can guess Ive gotten quiet a few dodgy secret santa presents so Ive thought this through…)

I don’t think Ive always been like this – and I know I don’t overanalyze everything – I can go into a store and buy a blouse, shoes, jewellery without digging into it – Though I remember once trying to understand what – oops I have analysed it… but the point is I can just go and do it without thinking things through.

WHATS THE PURPOSE – a whats that about question.

So I started thinking that since I analyse everything – what is the purpose of that, whats it mean to analyse yourself. I figured out that for me, its because I want to know whats going to happen so that I can have some sort of control over the outcome – or not so much the outcome but my reactions to the outcome. If I figure out what stuff means – then I wont get hurt.  This process hasnt worked that way so far – still get hurt..  but the hurt doesnt last as long because I am aware of the REASON it hurts..

Then I wondered – whats the control thing about – why do you need to be in such tight control of what happens around you – again is so that I dont get hurt, so that I prepared for the worst should it occur (what a horribly negative way to live- worry about the worst all the time!!) — so Ive decided that being in control is over rated.

IT HELPS – really analysing things to death – helps

It was a bit of a scare at first, but if you think about it – you have to think things through and make the wisest choices otherwise you end up with results that you just didn’t want. Yet by contemplating everything – do you have any control over the outcome?              No.

HOWEVER – if you wish to know why you react to incidents – analysis it to death.  Dig and I mean dig – way down where it hurts to figure out why you react like you do – or dont.    Once you know that – you then have the control you so desperately seek.     Not control over the situation – but control over how you handle the situation.  This then allows you to deal with the hurt in a proactive, productive way.   Oh and once you know the REASON why you do it – you won’t have that reaction anymore.      Just do it.

MORE EFFECTS OF Analysis  – if not done completely

I didnt realise I had been doing reflecting on situations and events for such a long time – then I got to thinking – where did it come from? What caused it? Have I always been like this?
I put so much time and effort – thought actually into discovering the effect my decisions or actions are going to have on my emotions and my life – that in reality it often held me back. I seemed to never move forward for fear of the possible outcomes – because when you delve into things you will ultimately come up with negative results.

These are the results you tend to focus on – and essentially that is what stops you from doing things differently. From taking a risk, from moving forward, from enjoying all life has to offer.. Now that I have solved the issue of thinking to much – I can apply choices –   a)  stop doing it, let go –  and b)  manage my reactions    –   the end result is   I get to live life and have a life I enjoy.
The events that caused my concerns and the need to be so prepared – probably will happen again – and knowing that and being prepared for them isnt going to stop it hurting. But at least I figured I now know I can handle it -.. and survive so I can move on…

RECOMMENDATION

My recommendation is – to think, analyse and consider all options. However, do so with an open mind. Be aware of the effect your thoughts have on your actions. If you realize that thinking things through stops you from doing things with your life – think about that. What opportunities have you missed out on, because you over thought a situation. Granted it may have saved you some hurt also – but in the long run – each time you make a choice and it doesn’t go to plan, you learn more about yourself and still move forward.